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12/13/14 08:18 pm - ziggyzest

Hi there everyone, I wonder if anyone reads this community still. I'm a Third Culture Kid/Adult. I was born in Russia, moved to the UK when I was 7 and then lived in Berlin, Germany when I was 16-25 where I attended an American International school. Now I'm back in the UK and starting to lose my trilingual identity as I'm starting to forget german and this pains me. It's like losing a part of yourself, forgetting a language. Nobody seems to get me. When once challenging a priest a few years ago for calling my mother Russian, when she's been a British citizen for 15 years now, I was shocked when my mother got cross at me for being cross with the priest for not understanding that her identity was more complex than just Russian. My mother herself does not understand that her identity is more complex than just Russian due to the places that she's lived in. But then again she only moved abroad when she was in her 40's, it's not like she was brought up here or anything. Everytime someone asks me where I'm from I freeze up because I panic that I'm acquiring an accent (which I don't) due to speaking Russian at home these days since the family breakdown ( my step family, when I was growing up, was English and we used to speak 2 languages at home) when my English has always been perfect and there shouldn't be anything to indicate me as not being from here. I get angry everytime my mother reminds me that I was born in Russia ( usually when I remind her that I'm a TCK. I don't wish to be Russian. I don't like the politics/culture of the place, I cringe at the lack of good cinema/music/fashion over there. Nobody likes Russians. We're seen as vodka drinking good for nothings that can't seem to sort their own country out politically-wise. We're Bolsheviks, revolutionaries, communists, corrupt oligarghs, devout christians ( my mother is Russian orthodox, alas. I cringe at this. No sense of style, my mother. Who in their right mind wants to be Russian orthodox?? No sex before marriage for goodness sake, just to name one aspect of it.), ugly baboushkas in scarves. We're all piano playing ballerinas ( alas I was this as a child). We're the people that can't seem to export anything more modern than Leo Tolstoy, Chekhov, Pushkin and Dostoyevsky ( not that I have anything against them but come on, it's surely time to export something new!). We're the cold war and kgb spies. We're the people that used to queue for a loaf of bread for over 3 hours, a loaf of bread that cost us half our month's wages. We're a paradox of a mess. Always have been, always will be. There is nothing popular or cool about being Russian. It's kitsch and cliche. I don't want to be this. I don't want to lose the richness of being a Third Culture Adult, able to converse and breathe in 3 languages and cultures as opposed to just one. I don't want to forget German and English, both of which I seem to be starting to forget. My German, because I'm not living in Germany, my English, because I live a quiet Emigre life in a Russian speaking household, ( with my mother) even though I live in the UK. I'm a freelance translator, I deal with languages every day but nevertheless, I find myself forgetting them. How can one make sure that one stays a trilingual TCK in a country where even speaking the local language can be a challenge because local people don't wish to give one a chance to converse. England's an unfriendly place to live. Nobody speaks to you, rushes to befriend you the way they do in other countries. All you can rely on is your family, and once you don't have that you don't have anything. I went to a snooty all girl's school over here as a teen, didn't really make many friends until we moved to Berlin and I went to the American International School which is where I was to make friends with the people that back then meant the most to me in my life. Unfortunately since then we've all split up and live in different countries from one another. They were fellow bilinguals/TCK's.  I feel lost in the world without them. I miss them so much it hurts. But I quarelled badly with them a few years back ( because I felt they were starting to forget me living their new lives, at uni, etc) and nothing has been the same since. I'm still in touch regularly with one of them though and this keeps me going. Any tips from fellow TCK's on staying a TCK? How do you keep up your different languages? How do you manage to hold on to your identity? Are there any of you who have moved back to your original countries and are facing the same dillemma as me? Any words of advice would be helpful.  

5/23/11 04:27 am - alainedances - Meeting other TCKs in your community

I've always been a community type person and like to do work and activities that involve the community because it makes it more meaningful.

For the past year, I've been hosting TCK meetups through the New York City Third Culture Kids Meetup group. I think its important for TCKs to meet other TCKs and make new friends especially those that understand your polyglot multicultural nomadic backgrounds. There's a mutual understanding among TCKs that we understand what the others are going through. But most importantly, especially when you're feeling lost in a new surrounding, having other TCKs that have been there longer can help you navigate and tell you the best eateries, shopping, ethnic markets, transportation, rules, and most importantly guide you through the transition phase of settling into a normal routine in your new surrounding.

Have you met other TCKs in your community? If so, I'd love to hear your experiences.

For those in New York City, check out http://www.meetup.com/nycthirdculturekids/

3/16/10 08:17 pm - alainedances - Hello fellow TCKs!

Its your moderator here... Not sure if there are still people on LJ... its been very sleepy around these parts in the past year. Perhaps its because we're leading such exciting lives and TCKid.com, Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, LinkedIn, Yelp, Internations and other social networking sites are sucking up a majority of our online activity. lol. Don't get me wrong, I love online social networking tools! You can find me at all the above! lol

I just wanted to let you know that I started my TCK arts project up again last year and there's quite a bit of buzz within the TCK/CCK community. You can follow the project on the project blog here: http://tckcckahdanceproject.blogspot.com

I just got back two weeks ago from the Families in Global Transitions conference in Houston, TX (http://www.figt.org) and presented portions of the project there. My session was titled, Expat Experience Through the Arts.

I hope you follow my project blog. We will be premiering Chameleon at University Settlement in the Lower East Side section of New York City on May 13-15, 2010. You can purchase tickets here: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/98414

We will also be in Washington D.C. on May 15th for the International Children's Festival and for Capital Fringe between July 8-25, 2010. So if you're in the area please do let us know and come support your fellow creative TCKs.

If you want to contact me  w/ questions about the project you can email me at ahdancecompany @ gmail . com


4/21/09 11:12 pm - silkblossom - hey!

 hey TCKs~
i just made a new community, "tck_forlife".
and upon searching realized this was a community as well!

6/4/08 04:13 pm - team_lj_india - Announcing the new, official India community]

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5/22/08 11:26 pm - chuckiecharlie

Hey all!
I was born in Calgary, Canada, and when i was 3 my family moved to Australia. we lived there untill i was 12 and then we moved to Dhahran, Saudi Arabia. they only have school there up to 9th grade, and they pay for us to go to boarding school after that. so off i went back to Canada (I have familly there and i wanted to get to know them better... besides that there really werent any boarding schools in Australia) to a School called Brentwood College School. I graduated from there, went back to Saudi for six months and then i decided to move back 'home' to Australia. i have lived here for a year and a half now... my sister is in Canada and the rest of my family is still in Saudi. 
anywhoo... just wated to introduce myself!

1/27/08 01:01 pm - asze - Complete a survey? Please?


I'm working on a research paper on plural nationalities for my Sociology class (Polish-Canadian myself), and I was hoping some of you might be willing to complete a survey to help me out.

The survey is meant for people who identify strongly with more than one nationality (such as immigrants, Third Culture Kids or Cross Cultural Kids).

It will take approximately 15 minutes to complete the questionnaire, and I would be very grateful if you could go have a look at it.

Click Here to take the survey

12/30/07 08:14 pm - aceofspades28

i didn't know if people were aware of this site or not, and i wanted to share it: www.tckid.com i've found it to be a very nice community.

12/30/07 03:24 am - andyrea

hello all!

i got directed over here and man, it's good to be around those with similar experiences!

i'm a u.s. citizen but haven't lived there until recently.

born in stavanger, norway and moved to dhahran, saudi arabia when i was 5. went to an american school here until i was 18 and suddenly had to adapt to the states. i've been there for 2 1/2 years now and i know it will never be "home". hard part is, saudi is so strict about letting people in....once i leave i'll never be able to come back. unless something changes in my lifetime (crossing my fingers!). but yeah just wanted to introduce myself!

11/19/07 02:41 pm - minako06

Hi. My name is Laura, and I am currently 19 years old and in university in America. I was born in Finland, moved to Germany when I was 1 year old, lived there until I was 2 years old, when I moved to the states, and I've been here ever since. I'm currently Bi-lingual (Finnish and English) and I'm almost trilingual (with German added to the mix, I've been studying it since high school). I've always felt out of place in the States, and mostly in Finland. Which hurt a lot when I was a "foreign exchange student" there, though I lived with family (whom I visit once a year, if I can).

I only recently found out about TCK's, and it makes me feel not so alone, you know? And it very much explained the "reverse culture shock" I experienced when I lived in Finland for a year, which has since puzzled me.

I am SO happy that I am not alone in this. :)
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